LDAR
🔴Incel community originDefinition
Acronym for 'Lay Down And Rot.' An expression of nihilistic resignation from incel communities, meaning to give up entirely on self-improvement, socializing, and life goals because you believe your situation is hopeless.
Dad Mode: This One Definitely Needs a Discussion
This one is genuinely concerning. LDAR stands for 'Lay Down And Rot' and it comes from the most hopeless part of incel ideology. If your kid is saying this seriously, they may be expressing real depression and hopelessness through internet language. Don't lecture. Don't panic. But do check in with them. Ask how they're doing. Listen more than you talk. And if you're worried, a therapist who understands internet culture can help.
Came from: Incel forums (incels.co, lookism.net), 2010s-present
Examples
“It's over, time to LDAR”
“There's no point in trying anymore, I'm giving up”
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Last Verified
2026-02-25
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