Pick Me
Stable🎒High SchoolDefinition
Someone who tries too hard to impress others (especially a romantic interest) by putting down their own gender or acting 'different.' A 'pick me girl' acts like she's 'not like other girls.'
Translation for Parents
A 'pick me' is someone who tries too hard to be chosen by acting like they're different from everyone else. 'I'm not like other moms, I'm a cool mom' energy. It's performative uniqueness. Your kid uses this to call out attention-seeking behavior. They are sometimes right.
Examples
“She said she doesn't like drama... girl that's so pick me”
“She says she doesn't like drama but that statement itself is attention-seeking behavior”
“'I only hang out with guys because girls are too dramatic' okay pick me”
“Claiming you only hang out with the opposite gender to seem special is textbook pick-me behavior”
Cringe Score
Your kid will cringe
Understanding 'pick me' culture is useful. Calling your spouse a 'pick me' at a dinner party is risky but might land if the timing is right.
Category
insult
Peak
2021-09
Last Verified
2026-02-25
Sources
urban_dictionary, tiktok, reddit