Shade / Throwing Shade
Definition
Subtle, indirect disrespect or criticism. 'Throwing shade' means making a disrespectful remark, usually in a clever or understated way. Originated in ballroom and drag culture, documented in the 1990 film 'Paris Is Burning.'
Translation for Parents
When your kid says someone 'threw shade,' they mean that person made a subtle dig or backhanded compliment. It's not outright hostility. It's the art of being rude without technically saying anything rude. Think of it as passive-aggressive with style.
Examples
“she was lowkey throwing shade the whole time”
“She was subtly being disrespectful the entire time”
“no shade but that outfit is a choice”
“Not to be rude, but that outfit is questionable”
Cringe Score
Mildly embarrassing
Parents can actually use this one. It's been mainstream long enough that it's more 'normal vocabulary' than 'slang.' Your kids won't even flinch.
Category
insult
Peak
2015-06
Last Verified
2026-02-25
Sources
editorial