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Deep Lore / Part 3

The 10 Stages of Slang Death

From forum post to your dad saying it at Thanksgiving. Every stage, mapped.

The 10 Stages

The full lifecycle of a slang term, from spark to graveyard

These stages describe the classic pipeline. Void Path terms sometimes enter midstream, sometimes skip it entirely.

1

The Spark

Who: A few hundred people in a niche communityWhere: Forum posts, Discord servers, group chatsYour kid knows: Absolutely not

Every word starts somewhere. 'Rizz' started in NYC streaming culture. 'Skibidi' started as a weird YouTube animation. 'Mogging' started on a 4chan fitness board in 2016. At this stage, the word belongs to its community and nobody else has heard of it.

2

The Crossover

Who: Early-adopter creators plugged into niche communitiesWhere: Short-form video, usually with context/explanationYour kid knows: Maybe, if they're extremely online

A creator from (or adjacent to) the original community uses the term in a video. This is the moment of context collapse: the word leaves its original meaning behind and enters a new environment.

3

The Algorithm Takes Notice

Who: Thousands of creators jumping on the trendWhere: TikTok For You page, YouTube ShortsYour kid knows: If they're on TikTok, yes

The algorithm's engagement sensors light up. More creators use the term to ride the trend. The word starts appearing in unrelated content because creators know trending language gets pushed by the algorithm.

4

High School Hallways

Who: Older teens, used in real-life conversationWhere: School hallways, group chats, textsYour kid knows: Your 9th grader? Definitely.

The term jumps from screens to spoken language. High schoolers are the first real-life adopters. This is peak 'cool' for the word.

5

Middle School Explosion

Who: Everyone aged 10-14Where: Everywhere. Constantly.Your kid knows: Your 6th grader won't stop saying it

The word hits critical mass. Middle schoolers adopt it with maximum enthusiasm and minimum understanding of origin. It's used as a noun, verb, adjective, and exclamation. This is where your 9th grader starts saying 'that's dead.'

6

Peak & Plateau

Who: Broad mainstream, including young adultsWhere: Everywhere, including Slack channels and dating app bios

Maximum saturation. The word is understood by almost everyone under 30. Using it no longer signals that you're in-the-know. It signals that you exist on the internet, which is not the same thing.

7

The Brand Grabs

Who: Marketing departments, corporate social mediaWhere: Wendy's tweets, Super Bowl ads, brand TikToks

A major brand uses the word in an ad. This is universally recognized as a death knell. When Wendy's tweets 'that's bussin fr fr' or a car commercial uses 'rizz,' the word has been strip-mined of any cultural value. Teens physically recoil.

8

The Explainer

Who: News anchors, morning show hosts, newspaper columnistsWhere: 'What does [TERM] mean?' articles

A CNN anchor looks directly into the camera and says, 'So, what exactly IS no cap?' This is the linguistic equivalent of an autopsy: the word is being examined because it is no longer alive.

Fun fact: you are currently reading a website that exists at this stage of the pipeline. I am aware of the irony.

9

Parent Adoption

Who: Your dadWhere: Family group chats, embarrassing texts, Thanksgiving dinner

The final indignity. A parent uses the term sincerely. In a text, at dinner, in front of their kid's friends. This is where words come to die.

This is also the stage where rottalk.com lives. I know. I'm at peace with it.

10

The Graveyard (or Resurrection)

Who: Nobody. Or ironically, everybody.Where: 'Remember when people said ___?' conversations

Two possible outcomes. Most terms just fade. They join 'YOLO,' 'on fleek,' and 'swag' in the great slang graveyard. But occasionally, a term gets resurrected and used ironically by a new generation. 'Groovy' has been through this cycle multiple times.

🪦 The Graveyard

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On Fleek

2014-2016

Eyebrows were never the same

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YOLO

2011-2013

Lived fast, died young. Appropriately.

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Swag

2010-2014

Had swag. Lost swag. Became swag's ghost.

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Bae

2013-2015

Before Anyone Else, after everyone else.

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Lit

2015-2019

The flame went out.

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Fam

2015-2018

We were never really family.

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Squad Goals

2015-2017

The squad disbanded.

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Dabbing

2015-2016

Rest in Cam Newton.

The Speed of Death

It's getting faster

The lifecycle used to take years. “Cool” has been slang for almost a century and is still going. “Groovy” lasted a solid decade. Even early internet slang like “LOL” took years to spread.

Now? A term can go from Stage 1 to Stage 8 in weeks. The algorithm compresses the entire lifecycle. Which means: by the time you see a word trending on TikTok, it may already be past its peak.

Cool
80+ years
Groovy
~10 years
LOL
25+ years
YOLO
~3 years
On Fleek
~2 years
Brat (2024)
~4 months
Demure
~2 months

Bar length = relative total lifecycle duration. The bars are getting shorter.

Source: Meltwater analysis, December 2024. Aleksic, Adam. NPR interview, July 2025.

Where Are YOU in the Pipeline?

Select your role to find out where you fit

The real-time age gap between your 6th grader and your 9th grader using the same term? About 3-6 months. The gap between your 9th grader and you? About 1-2 years. The gap between the original community and you? Could be a decade.

The Survivors

The rare terms that don't die

What makes a term survive?

  • It fills a genuine linguistic gap (“ghosting”)
  • It's genuinely useful (“doomscroll”)
  • It transcends its origin community (“cool”)
  • It evolves with usage (“troll”)
Cool(1940s)

80+ years and counting

Ghosting(2010s)

Likely permanent. Fills a real gap.

Troll(1990s)

Permanent. Evolved with the internet.

Vibe(1960s)

Multiple revivals. Unkillable.

Cringe(2010s internet)

Likely permanent. Too useful.

Doomscroll(2020)

Likely permanent. Too real.

Gaslighting(1944 film, 2010s revival)

Permanent.

Now You Know

The next time your kid uses a word you don't recognize, you can skip the panic and ask yourself: where is this word in the pipeline? Is it harmless brainrot from TikTok? Is it something with roots in communities you should know about? Or is it just a word that will be dead by next month?

Either way, I've got you covered.

This page was written by an Xennial dad and reviewed by zero actual linguists. But I cited my sources, which is more than most TikTok explainers can say. If I got something wrong, I'd love to hear about it, especially from anyone under 16, because you're probably right.

Sources

  1. Aleksic, Adam. Algospeak: How Social Media Is Transforming the Future of Language. Knopf, 2025.
  2. Aleksic, Adam. Interview with NPR Weekend Edition, July 2025.
  3. Aleksic, Adam. Interview with Scientific American, August 2025.
  4. Kaul, Abhinandan. “From Plato to Skibidi.” Medium, December 2025.
  5. Meltwater. “What was the most viral slang term of 2024?” December 2024.